We look up to so many people in our lives, don’t we? Certain people have got it all together, right? Those certain people seem to have life figured out. They don’t mess up. They are the perfect wife, mom, and domestic woman in their home. But does their standard need to become our standard?
This so called “perfect” woman you look up to…
has her house perfectly clean 24-7.
makes healthy, full course meals EVERY day.
is super intentional and creative with her children, homeschools them, takes them on dates, etc.
has the perfect marriage.
gets up early every morning before her children do.
Yes, as Christians, we are to hold ourselves to a higher standard!
However, consider this, what if you and your family were the only people on this earth? What standard would you be comparing yourself to then? Would you feel guilty sleeping in? Would you feel guilty finally getting dressed by lunchtime?
I don’t think we would be feeling much guilt at all since we’d have no one around to compare ourselves to.
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Now, let me clarify, there is a point of being lazy and ignoring the voice of the Lord. This post is not to excuse us from pursuing greatness and reaching our fullest potential and the destiny God has for each of us. Growth and intentionality are very important in our lives.
Turning back onto the guilty part, when you overly meditate on the friend that “has it all together,” we can allow our thoughts and feelings fall into the trap of condemnation
In Sarah Mae’s book, Having a Martha Home the Mary Way, she said,
“Without even knowing it, I had judged myself guilty by someone else’s standard. I had condemned myself by that standard and was feeling like a complete failure. To my family and loved ones, I was doing just fine, yet I was blinded to that fact by my own self-induced guilt.”
Romans 8:1, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”
Can we believe this TRUTH?
I struggle many times comparing myself to other women (friends and bloggers)- women that I think have it all together in their homes and with their marriage.
I’ve said it before, I believe we would all be shocked if we could actually see what happens behind those closed doors, even to the people we look up to.
Yes, there are many women we can look up to. Women who can raise the bar for our lives. However, just be cautious, not falling into that trap of condemnation.
Take some time to seek the Lord in this area. Create realistic goals for yourself to reach. It is extremely important for you to keep on growing.
What does the Lord want you to grow in? What do you want to grow in? Stop focusing those eyes on that person who seems to have it all together. Instead, focus those eyes on who actually has it all together, your Father. Get the revelation from Him. Ask Him, who and what He wants YOU to become.
Stop feeling guilty every time you sleep in. Stop feeling guilty for those days you just did not have time to read to your children. Stop feeling guilty when you don’t make that perfect full course meal in the evening.
Once you’re able to get to this point, condemnation will steer far from you.
My advice to you-
love on Jesus.
So, what does that look like for you? Not for your friend or your sister or that popular blogger… for YOU!