The other day I was at Sheetz with my aunt, and while I was walking up to the checkout line, she handed me $3 to pay for my milkshake. My immediate reaction to her was, “NO, NO!” She then said, “Why don’t you receive this blessing?” And in those few seconds, I felt guilty and chose to receive it.
After the matter I thought, “Why did I just not receive it?”
Anybody else guilty of this?
I grew up with my mom and grandma going out to eat, and ALWAYS fighting for the bill when it came to pay. One would say, “No, I got it.” And the other would grab it out of her hands and say, “No, I do!” On, and on, this would happen. I am guilty of this many, many times myself.
Why can it be so hard for us to receive? How comes for something so small and simple, we can make a huge deal out of it?
“We try to act like we are NOT selfish.”
However, I believe the complete opposite is happening. We ARE selfish when we deny a gift or a blessing.
We don’t want to receive from someone, because we then immediately feel obligated that in some time we must give in return. Which means we must provide a gift or a service from our own time or money.
We don’t want to feel that obligation! And so that obligation never arrives when we deny that gift.
Denying the Blessing
When we refuse to receive a gift, we are denying that person to receive a special blessing from God.
This leads us, again, in being selfish. We are only thinking of ourselves when we don’t receive. We don’t want to feel that obligation, so we end up denying that blessing they could be receiving from God in return.
Can we realign our mindset to what it really means to receive. We SHOULD NOT feel obligated to give in return when we receive. If that person gave out of the right heart, no expectations in return should be there.
Plus, if they gave out of the right heart, and you received it, then that person is on it’s way receiving a special blessing from God. One that God so gladly wants to give His child!
Years ago, my husband confronted me about not easily receiving when friends or family members would offer me something. Over time, my mindset has changed.
However, I felt that I got to the point of receiving and accepting very quickly and easy, without any hesitation. This then probably led people to thinking that I was greedy. So I now find myself at the same point I was years ago.
The challenge I give myself is…
Finding that balance of knowing how to willing receive but also not taking it for granted.
Anyone else battle with this?